The brides of Jerusalem magazine are finding that, for some, the marriage is more about the honeymoon than the honey.
Last week, The Jerusalem News published a cover story titled “My Husband Is a Dope,” in which its authors explored the ways in which women who are single have different expectations of the marriage and a less than desirable relationship with their husbands.
The women spoke candidly about their marriages, how they chose to enter a marriage, and how their husbands treated them, with some of them sharing the intimate details of their marriages and husbands’ treatment of them.
According to The Jerusalem Weekly, some of the women who spoke candidally about their marriage situations said that they feel betrayed by their husbands, or that their husbands’ behavior made them feel guilty.
Some of the stories were graphic, such as a woman who was married for eight years, and who had been divorced twice.
The other stories were less explicit, such that some women spoke of their husbands cheating on them, leaving them with no one to share the marital bond.
According the article, some women feel that their marriages are less meaningful than others, and they often feel betrayed when they see the way their husbands treat their children, especially children who were born out of wedlock.
“When I am in my marriage, I am more than happy to share what happened in the marriage, but when I see my husband, I can’t do it, because it feels so humiliating,” a woman named Amira said.
A number of the other women interviewed said that their partners were often abusive, and that their children were also sometimes abused.
In the article entitled “I’m Not Fearful of My Husband,” The Jerusalem Magazine asked women to recount how their relationships with their spouses changed, and their reactions to their marriages.
Many of the responses were shocking and upsetting, and many women said that if they had a choice, they would choose a life in which their husbands were abusive to them, as opposed to a life where their marriages were peaceful and stable.
In one instance, the Jerusalem Magazine article asked a woman called Ayseh if she thought she would choose her marriage over her career.
She replied that her career would not be a priority in her life if she married someone who was abusive.
“If I had a career, I would definitely choose my husband over my career, but I would have to choose my career first,” Ayseg told the Jerusalem Weekly.
“But if I had my career back, I will choose my marriage first.
Because the first priority is to have a peaceful and healthy marriage.”
Some women said they felt as if they were being told they are weak, and even that they should stop talking to their husbands because of their feelings of guilt.
In another story, a woman from the eastern city of Kiryat Arba, who has lived in the same city for nearly 20 years, said that she is still married to her husband and lives with him every day.
“He has treated me like an animal,” she said.
“He never tells me to eat or drink, and he makes me feel like an idiot.”
A number the women spoke about their husbands are also married, and most of them did not report that their wives were abusive or neglected them.
“I feel like if I tell my husband I am not afraid, he will abuse me,” a man from the east city of Jerusalem, who wished to remain anonymous, told The Jerusalem Daily.
“I am afraid because I am afraid of being hurt.
I feel ashamed and humiliated.”
While many women did not discuss their marriages or their marriages with their wives, the women shared the stories of their partners with the Jerusalem newspaper.
“They treated me as a piece of meat, as a useless piece of trash,” a married woman named Nadiya said.
“And they treated my children like toys,” she added.
The article stated that the wives of the married women are often afraid of revealing their marital status to their spouses, fearing that they might face a backlash.
“Many of them were afraid of telling their husbands about their marital issues because they would face repercussions,” The article continued.
“And if they did reveal their marital problems, they fear that their families might take a strong position against them.
Some of the wives said that some of their male relatives have threatened to punish them if they revealed their marital troubles.”
The Jerusalem Weekly spoke to a number of women who have been married in the past, and asked them to share their stories.
Some women said their husbands have never treated them with kindness or affection, while some said that while they were married to their current spouses, they were treated like a piece.
“Sometimes when my husband sees me, he always tells me that I am a piece,” a single woman named Shira told The Weekly.
“So he treats me like a garbage heap, and I feel like a pile of trash.
He would never treat me with kindness and affection.”